Practically gone are the days when you registered for linen and china, monogrammed glassware, and Tiffany crystal. Back when getting married also meant moving out of your parent's house and into your new, 1,100 sq ft palace.

 

Nowadays marriage comes at a later time in our lives, most couples are closer to their 30s when they say “I do” and have been living on their own with their own sets of stuff.

 

It's exciting, the prospect of getting new, shiny matching everything, but before you go crazy with your scanner gun, take a second and take inventory. Let me explain.

 

WHAT YOU HAVE THAT NEEDS REPLACING

Does your blender fail to blend? Are your knives dull as (INSERT SOMETHING DULL HERE) and no matter how many trips to the grocery store to sharpen them up, they just aren't worth salvaging? Replace or upgrade those things that need it, because you need them, as proven by your current use of them.

 

WHAT YOU HAVE THAT WORKS WELL

You might be thinking, “I should get another one, just in case the one I have breaks,” but unless you are inviting 6,000 people to your wedding I think we can both agree that there will be other things that you are in want of more, than this thing it is that you already have and that works well. Look at what you don't have first.

 

WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE BUT WOULD OR COULD USE IF YOU DID

Oh man, slippery slope my friend. How do you know that you'll use it? Before adding it to the list answer me this: can you borrow it from someone else, test it out and ensure that you really would use it? I think this is a good plan, because in my family the things that I don’t have but would use if I did end up being things that one of the moms owns, doesn’t use, and doesn’t mind loaning me with an infinite loan term.

 

WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE BUT JUST WANT

Again, perhaps let's start with more important items, like new towels that don't smell like wet dog... because you use them on your dog.

 

Keep in mind that a small registry forces people to either purchase what's on it or give you cash. If you leave the option for gift cards or a honeymoon fund, you might find people contributing to that as well. Booyah.

 

My husband and I have a go-to gift; it's tried, true and tested. We purchase the frame off of their registry and add a Benjamin. Say cheese Franklin.

 

When it comes down to it you want to ask for gifts that are going to enhance your marriage, that are going to bring you closer together to be more comfortable, cleaner, healthier, or have more fun as a couple together.

 

 

Prosperity, Love & Happiness,

Josey